Sex and satisfaction from married life and the level of interest of husband and wife are the triangle of happy and stable life, the life of all people is based on love and interest.
The clinical psychologist stated: There are also important factors that cause marital discord and family breakdown. Comparing a life partner with others harms the relationship, while it is better to compare him with himself.
The director of the psychosocial health department of Kerman University of Medical Sciences said: There is a direct relationship between sex and satisfaction with married life and the level of love between husband and wife. will be
Ali Bahramnejad added: The photo above is also true. The role of emotional and sexual factors is a secondary factor, and things like a woman’s independence and a man’s degree of responsibility determine a woman’s interest in a person.
He clarified: It is clear that in young men and women, incompatibility increases after lust is extinguished.
Bahram Nejad pointed out the reasons for aggressive spouses and stated: All humans have the innate ability to solve life’s problems, but this ability must be cultivated according to the current conditions and issues of the family or society until it becomes internalized as efficient skills.
He added: If family members suffer from a disorder or deviation, which includes marital disputes, it should be seen whether the person’s problem is caused by negative childhood and cognitive attitudes, in other words, his personality problem. Does the root of a person’s disorder and differences with other family members originate from his physical and mental imbalance? Is the root of a person’s disorders or deviation in the family caused by environmental, social and cultural issues? And is the root of the disturbances or differences caused by the economic issues of the family?
Bahramnejad, in response to the question, to what extent does the failure to meet needs affect the aggressive behavior of spouses? He stated: If the demands of the family members are not in accordance with the real conditions of the family and are not realistic, then it will not be fulfilled, and then failure will occur in the person, and if there is no necessary skill to manage this failure, it will lead to anger and aggression.
This clinical psychologist stated: There are also important factors that cause marital discord and family breakdown. Comparing a life partner with others harms the relationship, while it is better to compare him with himself.
The Director of the Psychosocial Health Department of Kerman University of Medical Sciences stated: Poverty can be recognized by various characteristics and signs such as low income, inadequate and incomplete education, living in inappropriate homes and a large number of children in broken families. Compared to other people of any society, a poor person usually has a shorter life span, gets sick more often, and often suffers from physical and mental defects due to poverty and lack of food and sanitary equipment, and faces more personality crises.
Bahramnejad further stated: Childlessness or low number of children also causes instability of the family, while the emotional atmosphere of the family depends on various factors such as the way members of a family communicate and treat each other, their feelings and interests, their cooperation or competition with each other, and how they interfere or not. The involvement of people in each other’s work also depends.
He clarified: Cultural and educational poverty, love, family warmth, sociability, freedom, economic affairs and establishing understanding and democracy are principles that should be considered by the family.
The director of the psychosocial health department of Kerman University of Medical Sciences also mentioned the issue of drug addiction and said: the most important effect of addiction on the family is the loss of control, order and discipline and the creation of chaos and disorder, which itself is a platform for the growth of harm and It is considered aggression in the family.
In order to have a more balanced life, he advised: In order to achieve a successful family, one of our measures can be to keep a list of our spouse’s abilities in mind and give importance to it as a principle in life. Also, allocating time during the day and night to talk and exchange ideas with your spouse is an effective step towards healthy relationships.
This clinical psychologist added: Oblige yourself to have verbal communication with your spouse at suitable opportunities and do not limit them to the times when you have a crisis. Besides, in communicating and talking with your spouse, instead of dictating and commanding words, you can express your opinions. This way of interaction enables acceptance.
Bahramnejad emphasized: It is important to keep calm and cool while talking with your wife, otherwise it is better to refrain from continuing the discussion when anger arises.
He stated: In making decisions and choosing solutions and life plans, it is necessary for each couple to consider the rights of their spouses and not keep them away from the scene of decisions, while participating in family life matters and helping the spouse to promote and improve. Relationships help.
Director of the Psychosocial Health Department of Kerman University of Medical Sciences said: Comparing your partner with others harms the relationship. It is good to compare him with himself (his past) and appreciate his moral and intellectual progress because this will increase understanding. In order to take advantage of the method of constructive criticism about the wife’s behavior, by mentioning one of her positive aspects, the ground for criticism and constructive criticism and its acceptance can be facilitated.
This clinical psychologist reminded: if we want your wife to have a characteristic that we want but we don’t see it in reality, we can gradually create this characteristic in her by positive suggestion, for example, in dealing with a wife who, when faced with problems, feels becomes weak, you can say “I’m sure you won’t let yourself lose your footing in front of issues.”
He said: knowing the common spiritual aspects between oneself and one’s spouse helps in better communication. It should even be acknowledged that in shaky and broken families, there is an intellectual and spiritual aspect of sharing, and that is the parents’ interest in their child’s happiness.
Bahramnezhed added: In case you are not able to practically help your wife or express your interest in helping and cooperating with her due to being too busy, assure her of your support.
The director of the Department of Psychosocial Health of Kerman University of Medical Sciences said: Keeping family secrets and internal secrets helps to gain more trust and understanding, and efforts should be made to avoid scrutinizing the faults and faults of the spouse and flaunting them, and covering up the faults in the relationship with the spouse. be
He stated: We should believe in the principle of participation in our family’s life and seek help in the affairs of our spouses and children, and also be a patient and careful listener during conversations.
In the end, Bahramnejad noted: Optimistic thinking will guarantee the health of emotions and bring joy to life.