Sexual problems and disputes between couples
* Dr. Mohammad Hossein Akhwan Taqvi: Sexual disorders are very common. According to statistics, about 30% of people in the society suffer from one of the types of sexual disorders during their life. Sexual disorders include a wide range of disorders in men and women. It is obvious that such disorders endanger people’s sexual health.
We consider a person healthy who, in addition to physical and mental health, also has full sexual health. Sexual health is necessary for a successful marriage and a satisfying married life. Satisfying sexual relations are the glue of life and the source of consistency and durability of life. According to the findings of the research group at Shahid University, more than 60% of couples who refer to one of the family judicial complexes in Tehran for divorce are not satisfied with their sexual relations with their spouses. Sexual disorders are treatable despite being common.
Of course, the treatability of sexual disorders does not mean that the treatment of such disorders is simple. Many couples who come to us because of sexual problems have already taken all kinds of drugs and sexual products on the advice of others or based on satellite and internet advertisements, but they did not get results, because the treatment of sexual disorders is usually a combination of drug and non-drug treatments, and sometimes only based on treatments. It is psychological. For example, coldness in women in most cases does not have a physical origin, and the causes of its occurrence should be found elsewhere, such as the indifference and inattention of the spouse, tensions and stresses of life, family quarrels, sexual disorders of the husband, physiological conditions of the woman, suffering from depression and the like. did Arbitrary consumption of all kinds of sexual drugs, which happen to be abundant in all pharmacies and offered to customers without a prescription, is not only ineffective, but also comes with various risks and side effects, and sometimes makes the treatment process more difficult.
Unfortunately, in the case of sexual issues, the problem of not coming or coming late is more. Unlike other diseases such as heart disease, high blood pressure, or kidney failure, sexual disorders do not threaten a person’s life, so people try to cope with the problem in some way, while they do not know that sexual disorders like termites slowly and gradually weaken the foundations of married life. A lot of pessimism, arguments over minor and unimportant issues, aggressions, bad relationships with children and colleagues, and even the occurrence of physical problems such as frequent headaches can be caused by the existence of sexual disorders that a person is unaware of.
Of course, dissatisfaction with sexual relations is not always due to the existence of a sexual disorder. False beliefs about sexual issues, lack of knowledge about sexual issues, and not having enough information about the sexual differences between men and women also cause sexual dissatisfaction in many cases. Although such problems can be resolved in counseling sessions with unhappy couples.
But the better solution is to provide sex education to couples before such problems occur. The period of marriage is the best time to provide explicit sexual education to young people. Such training needs to be emphasized, especially now that people are exposed to the influx of all kinds of false and deceptive content, advertisements and advertisements, satellite networks and social networks. Another important point is that the cooperation of husband and wife is necessary in the treatment of sexual disorders.
In many cases, a person comes when the sexual relationship with his wife has become very difficult and for example, his wife has not been willing to communicate with him for months. Cooperate to repair and improve this connection. However, paying attention to sexual health and timely diagnosis and treatment of its disorders, in addition to ensuring the health of the individual, prevents the collapse of the family.
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*Member of Shahid University Family Health Clinic treatment group