It is better for mothers to talk to their children about their physical maturity before their children reach puberty, around the ages of nine to twelve, and let them know about the physical changes in their bodies.
“do not be afraid! This is a natural occurrence” This sentence may be one of the first experiences of mother-daughter conversations in most Iranian families. For many girls, between 9 and 12 years old was the age when their mothers slowly thought of taking them aside and explaining in private that they would soon face changes and events in their bodies that they should not be afraid of, and of course a word Do not openly talk about these changes. Until years ago, a girl’s mother’s talk was usually the first encounter of girls with the phenomenon of physical maturity.
Now the girls of the 7th grade (former 2nd guidance) will find the title of those motherly talks with more formal and bookish sentences in the book “Thoughts and Life Style”. The director general of the primary textbook authoring office of the Ministry of Education announced on Monday that, based on some “needs”, the subject of addiction and sexual maturity has been included in the seventh and eighth grades.
According to Salamat News, quoted by Etemad newspaper, in the first 14 pages of the first 14 pages of the book on the special lifestyle for girls, the girls are introduced to the concept of puberty and its signs, including the menstrual habit. Boys, one year later, in the book on the special lifestyle of boys. In the eighth year, they face the problem of puberty and “addiction” after that. Secret conversations and gossip have gradually left the corners of houses and friendly gatherings and have found books and lessons for themselves.
If the girls have not heard anything from their mothers before reaching the seventh grade, they will face the truth of puberty in the text of their textbook: “Menstruation is an event that happens in the inner lining of the uterus of girls and women every month. In this natural event, which is accompanied by pain, women’s egg is released from the uterus along with blood and pressure.
The definition of puberty, the signs of puberty, health and nutrition during puberty are among the issues that are briefly and usefully explained for girls and boys separately in these books, and of course both groups are advised to “get rid of disturbing and wrong thoughts.” Get away from your mind and amuse yourself by reading, having fun and watching TV.
Seyed Amir Ron, the head of the curriculum planning group of manners and life skills of education, says about the topics included in the seventh and eighth grade for girls and boys: “The topics related to puberty are based on expert studies and are completely in accordance with the developmental changes that occur in girls. And boys occur in the books included. Due to the fact that, due to social changes, the relationship between family members has become weaker and there are questions for students that sometimes families avoid answering them, the school is the best institution that could handle the task of this type of education. take it”.
The “red lines” and sensitivities in Iranian religion and culture have been defined and discussed, but the teachers are ready to answer the students’ questions and problems in the classroom after the general discussions of the book have been discussed.
Ron emphasizes that the topics have been defined and raised considering the “red lines” and sensitivities in Iranian religion and culture, but the teachers are ready to answer the questions and problems of the students in the classroom after the general discussions of the book have been raised. . In response to a question, are the teachers ready for this part of the class? He says: “It is definitely so.
In the first stage, last summer, we trained the teachers of the country to raise these discussions, who in turn trained the teachers at the school level, in addition to the textbook, the teachers also have a guide that details how to raise them. These topics in class have taught them how to deal with students’ questions
We have even introduced useful internet sites in the teacher’s guide so that our colleagues can tell the students which site they can refer to in this wide virtual world with different sites and sources to get the correct answers to their questions. He assures that if a teacher is unable to answer the students’ questions, it is the result of negligence and not a weakness in teacher training.
“Ron” considers the transformation of these topics into a part of the students’ curriculum as a significant progress: “Before this, the pre-service teachers answered the students’ questions when they came to them. But now these topics have taken up two hours of class time. The writing and teaching of these subjects in this way is the first time that it is done in the country’s schools. Now that maturity and addiction as a part of society’s need that was regularly pointed out by experts have finally opened a way in the classrooms, there are other experts who are criticizing the way the content is presented and the level of education in which these issues are raised.
No training is better than incomplete training
“We must say don’t be tired! The boys and girls who read this book have usually reached puberty at this age or have heard all the details from their parents and friends. What are the achievements of these books and the principles presented in them for students?” The head of the scientific association of Iranian helpers is not very optimistic about the way and time of presentation of lessons related to maturity and addiction to textbooks. Mostafa Alkalima believes that the discussion of education cannot be limited to the publication of a book and a specific educational level, and of course he emphasizes that the important point after getting to know puberty is to answer the questions of teenagers who do not have enough information about the sexual needs that appear in their bodies. They should know how to face the new desires they feel in themselves. If this is not the case, today’s teenagers and even children know very well what informal sources to refer to in order to solve their questions: “Now, it is not like the past when children are unaware of issues until we have told them. They become familiar with these issues through the internet, the media, and their peers, much earlier than the age that is considered for them in the textbook. We must have a culture of answering children’s questions. All over the world, children’s questions are answered about questions related to these issues and even physical differences between boys and girls and sexual issues from childhood. By writing a book, one cannot think that we have answered the students’ problems. If these issues are going to be brought up and remain in the general level, it is better not to teach them. Incomplete education only causes a problem to become more prominent in their minds without getting convincing answers.
boyish addiction
The section “Addiction and its dangers” in the special lifestyle book for 8th grade boys begins with a story condemning addiction: “I remember when I was 15 years old when I stepped into my father’s shoes. I experienced drinking with him. I smoked crack and glass and bought and sold it. My father did not know that he was raising students; I used to repeat whatever he did. And it continues with the definition of an addict and the signs and symptoms of addiction, etc.
The discussion of addiction is specific to boys’ books, although girls also learn about risky behavior and drug abuse in the 7th grade lifestyle book (shared between girls and boys), but it seems that boys need more attention in They are especially addictive.
The discussion of addiction is specific to boys’ books, although girls also learn about risky behavior and drug abuse in the 7th grade lifestyle book (shared between girls and boys), but it seems that boys need more attention in They are especially addictive. In response to why boys receive more and more accurate education about addiction than girls, Ron says: “Anyway, we have discussed the issue of abuse in the common lifestyle book, but it doesn’t seem more true than that. It is not possible to break the taboo by raising the issue of addiction more clearly in the book Girls of Harem. In addition, boys are more susceptible to drugs than girls due to their characteristics and more freedom, and they should receive more education.”
But Aklima does not agree with this view on the problem of addiction prevention education. According to him, children, both boys and girls, face the problem of addiction long before we think about it: “A child who watches TV with his family will understand from a young age that addiction is What is it, apart from that, according to the official announcement, we have two million addicts, it is customary in the world to say that there is an equally hidden population in the bottom layer of every official statistic. That is, four million addicts, if each of them are in a family of four, 16 million people, including eight million children, are affected by the direct and indirect effects of addiction. Why do we think that adolescence is the time when we should warn students about addiction and its effects? This prevention and education should start from a younger age.”
Apart from being biased or criticizing the manner in which issues such as maturity and addiction are raised in the books of the first year of high school, it seems that education has taken another step in continuing the process of continuing education in schools.
Apart from being biased or criticizing the manner in which issues such as maturity and addiction are raised in the books of the first year of high school, it seems that education has taken another step in continuing the process of continuing education in schools. The movement that started earlier with the publication of the educational booklet “AIDS prevention” for first year high school students is now progressing. Perhaps, in the continuation of this progress, the need for education from a younger age will also appear, but currently lifestyle books and classrooms are at the disposal of students and teachers, what happens in the classrooms and the questions and answers that are given in these two hours. lessons are presented in the country’s school classes, it determines how effective or ineffective the presence or absence of these subjects in the school is in clarifying the students’ minds and answering the questions in their minds.
