Let’s know the sexual disorders that are common in women

dyspareunia (painful intercourse)
Dysparonia is a condition in which a person experiences pain during intercourse. This pain may occur when the male penis enters the vagina or at different stages during penetration. This state has different degrees and has different reasons and treatments for when and where a person feels pain after intercourse.
One of the common causes of pain during intercourse for women is vaginal dryness. If the woman is not ready for penetration for any reason, this operation can be very painful. In most cases, vaginal dryness is due to not having enough foreplay, that is, the woman has not had the opportunity to physically respond to sexual stimuli and the vaginal environment is not slippery enough. Among other reasons and conditions that can cause vaginal dryness are the medications that a person takes. In this case, consulting a doctor or reading about the medicine you are taking can be useful. There are usually good resources on the internet about different drugs.
Other causes of dyspareunia or painful intercourse include injuries and blows to the penis over time, history of sexual abuse, postpartum period, period of menstruation, diseases of the genital area, and some cancers that destroy the nerves in that area. and also mentioned untreated sexually transmitted diseases.
Some doctors do not consider painful intercourse to be a sexual disorder, and their encounter with patients who suffer from this condition is not accompanied by sufficient knowledge. In these cases, it is recommended to go to another doctor and tell him about the painfulness of your genital area before the examination. Sometimes it is necessary to perform the necessary psychotherapy before any examination.
Another condition that people face is pain during penetration. This state can be due to several reasons, the most common of which are: infections of the genital tract and cervix, untreated sexually transmitted diseases, the coincidence of proximity and the time of ovulation, and finally, the person is not physically ready.
The last case is the reason for the referral of a large percentage of women, especially at the beginning of having sex.
The time couples spend on foreplay is not just emotional. In the body of a woman who is preparing to have sex, there are changes that make penetration easier. The reason is that women’s bodies are designed to provide maximum preparation for pregnancy during penetration, so when a woman finds the necessary preparation due to foreplay, her uterus is stretched upwards and this adds to the length of the vagina. to be able to accommodate the male penis.
In this case, the walls of the vagina are filled with blood and secrete slippery substances that make penetration easier. These walls are separated from each other due to proper foreplay and make it easier to place the male penis in the vagina. So we see how pleasant and sufficient foreplay can affect the quality of sex.

Vaginismus (painful and involuntary contraction of vaginal muscles)
In this case, any penetration into the vagina is extremely painful and even impossible, even one’s own finger. In these cases, gynecology and obstetrics examinations also face problems because the patient is afraid of even the thought of the examination tool being inserted into his vagina. Because this disorder is part of the group of disorders related to pain and each person’s definition of the amount of pain they experience is different from another person, so the way the doctor and the people around these people treat them plays a significant role during the treatment.
The first step in the treatment of this disorder is to believe the patient and feel his pain. After that, a doctor (in Iran) or a sexual psychotherapist along with the person’s sexual partner start the treatment. In this way, the person receives a series of tools that are like a finger and are usually from the size of the index finger to the size of the male penis.
Every week, the person practices inserting one of these tools into the vagina along with concentration exercises and relaxing the body parts until the last size enters the vagina without pain. After that, the male penis gradually enters the vagina. This step should be done very slowly and according to the patient’s acceptance. Vaginismus treatment can take more than a year depending on various factors.
For people who are looking for faster solutions, treatments such as making the man and woman close while the woman is anesthetized by the doctor, or paralyzing the surrounding muscles and the opening of the vagina by injecting substances such as Botox have been reported in Iran, which in the long run not only have a better effect It does not, but it can have a very destructive effect on the relationships of couples and the image that a woman has of herself. These methods are not recommended.
If the couple wants to get rid of this disorder with the sole aim of having a child, they can use insemination with an intermediary, that is, the man’s semen is inserted into the woman’s vagina with a tool such as a long dropper and intercourse is performed artificially.
This problem is psychological and not physical (except for a handful of cases where injuries and blows to the genital area have been reported to cause this problem). For example, a woman who was told in her childhood that her genital area can be a place of shame and sin and that men can cause irreparable damage to her hymen, may experience such a problem at the beginning of their life together.

Not reaching the peak of sexual pleasure (orgasm)
This disorder is said to be a condition in which the person reaches the peak of sexual pleasure with a delay or the person does not experience the peak of sexual pleasure at all. This condition is more or less seen in women in most regions of the world. The reason for this is that girls are encouraged to be modest from childhood. When the same girl enters into a relationship and now as a woman and sexual partner, she has to perform some tasks, breaking the privacy in which a person has to put aside the hijab and modesty and enjoy sex with his wife during certain hours of the day and night. it’s hard.
This mindset, which is institutionalized, cannot be turned on and off like a switch. Therefore, a person cannot break his mental inhibitions, and sometimes even if he enjoys it, he cannot or does not want to express it, for fear of being judged and accused of being a prostitute. Therefore, over time, this state turns sex for a person from a welcome state to a duty state and sometimes accompanied by fear. Afraid that he might react so that his wife thinks he is a pervert.
At the beginning of the sexual relationship, there is often the fear that the person will be accused of having experienced another sexual relationship before, and that is why he knows how to deal with the other party in a sexual relationship and enjoy it. .
The next thing that can cause this disorder is the adverse effect of some drugs on the brain mechanism of people. For example, studies have reported that some antidepressants can have a negative effect on women reaching the peak of sexual pleasure. If a person notices this effect, he should go to his doctor so that if possible, he can change the drug or change its dosage, but this must be done by a specialist doctor, otherwise, in the long run, the effects of the new drug or stopping the drug itself can cause harm to a person.
With all these details, we can see how effective the role of men can be in solving women’s sexual disorders. If a woman feels comfortable and shares her concerns with her sexual partner without fear of being judged, the percentage of her suffering from these disorders or the length of her treatment will be greatly reduced.

Decreased libido
In studies conducted and clinical observations in North America, this disorder is the most common reason for referral among women aged 18 to 59. A decrease in sexual desire may occur due to a person’s anger and dissatisfaction with the whole relationship, fatigue and stress. In this case, the empathy of couples and their support for each other can be a solution.
In the next step, couples counselors and sex therapists can also be helpful. The only thing to remember is that using sex as a tactic in front of a partner is not very reasonable and causes more confusion between couples. Forcing a person with low libido to have sex does not help the situation at all.
Some contraceptives can also cause this condition, for example, some types of contraceptive pills or subcutaneous capsules have been mentioned in the reports. In this case, the person can change his contraceptive method with the doctor’s advice. But until you are sure about the new contraceptive method, it is better not to stop the previous medicine so as not to get an unwanted pregnancy.
Usually, if a woman has a disorder in orgasm and this problem becomes chronic, she may suffer from secondary sexual disorder after a while, which is a decrease in sexual desire.
The simple explanation of this is that people like to do what they enjoy. If a person has had sex for a long time that was not pleasant for him, he naturally refuses to have it or shows no desire towards it. Therefore, it is important that even if you do not reach satisfaction through penetration, you reach the peak of sexual pleasure by stimulating the clitoris, so that the brain remembers a good memory of sex and is not disappointed to receive pleasure every time.
Couple intimacy (kissing, caressing, cuddling, etc.) after each intercourse is also very important. For couples to know that they are not only considered for their physical relationship, but also that they are dear to each other as two wives and life partners. This issue is especially important for women.