Fulfilling the sexual expectations of the spouse
What kind of thoughts and expectations do men have from their wives in terms of sex, and how can women meet these expectations?
What is certain is that the sexual instinct in both men and women is one of the strongest instincts, because humans are pleasure-seeking beings and the response to sexual needs is also very pleasurable, so unconsciously, all human beings seek to respond to this need, but every need It should be answered in the right way, for example, we all like money, but we know that we have to work hard to get it, working to earn more income is a correct action to meet our economic needs, but theft, fraud, murder And… it is also an incorrect way to respond to economic needs, which one do you choose? If the second case is your choice, then there is no place for security in the society you are considering.
Open and hidden instincts of women and men:
Until now, we have heard a lot that when women talk about men, they say that men are all about sex and they are only looking for their sexual instincts, and we have also heard that men say about women that women are always looking for sex. They are themselves and in summary of such words, what is certain is that both women and men have sexual desire and want to achieve their status, but the difference is that human needs are divided into two types: obvious needs and hidden or hidden needs, instinct. Sex in men is one of their obvious or obvious needs, and instead, the sense of showing off and showing off is one of their hidden needs, while women’s sexual desire is one of their hidden needs and the desire to show off is one of their obvious needs, but the common feature of these two groups It is that both of them, whether male or female, have two needs.
So, so far, we have come to the conclusion that the sexual need is placed in both men and women, and no one can claim that there is no sexual desire in him, because God has placed the sexual instinct in all of us.
Men’s sexual thoughts and the personality we see from them
Men have different sexual thoughts, which we will refer to as sexual fantasies in the rest of the article, but these sexual thoughts are derived from their mental and psychological needs. Most people think that men will reach orgasm only by performing a series of trivial actions, but In what way is sex between husband and wife sacred? Is it just because we achieve sexual satisfaction by doing some physical actions?
Of course, if it was like this, after a few moments or hours, the sexual need would return to its original level, and as if not, then the purpose of sex between husband and wife is sexual satisfaction and psychological satisfaction.
Mental and psychological satisfaction has long-term effects on the behavior of husband and wife in married life, and this is the sanctity of sex between husband and wife, while most people, unfortunately, only follow the first part, which is sexual satisfaction, and if they are looking for satisfaction If they are both sexual and spiritual, many times and lasting pleasure is formed in them.
So, we got acquainted with mental and emotional satisfaction. Now, every human being has thoughts in his head to achieve mental and emotional satisfaction, which are sexual thoughts. These sexual thoughts or sexual fantasies are completely different from the external personality of people, which we mention below:
Definition of sexual fantasies: actions and behavior that are formed in people’s minds about sex, which are mostly psychological, are called sexual fantasies or in the term of sexology, fetish, which are different in different people, in other words, thoughts that stimulate men and women. And they seek to satisfy their needs in sex. Of course, as mentioned, it is different for different people.
Example: Some men enjoy their wife’s long hair and get excited, while long hair may not attract attention at all for another man, let alone get excited.
Some men enjoy talking to women and are stimulated, some are stimulated by seeing lipstick, nail polish, etc., some are stimulated by seeing women’s legs, women’s socks or their underwear, and… that maybe another man in Be indifferent to these cases.
Maybe wearing short pants (Bermudai) is natural for women, maybe wearing sandals is natural, but why are these types of clothing against? Because maybe some men are indifferent towards that part of your leg or your body and deal with this as a normal issue, but in many other people, it causes sexual thoughts, which, unfortunately, is the reason for most rapes.
Many women are not aware of the sexual thoughts of men, what causes them to be aroused, that is, they think that only their naked body arouses men, which is incorrect, because as we mentioned above, maybe the smallest thing about women causes irritation. To become a man, of course, it is not true for all men.
According to my personal opinion, fetishes exist in sexual relations for all people, but it is different and has nothing to do with the personality of the other party. Don’t be provoked and satisfy yourself by doing things like kissing or licking your wife’s feet (psychological areas). This is when if you see this person outside, you think that he is a cold man in terms of sexual instinct. There are different types of fetishes, maybe it is difficult for you to perform an act, but according to your partner, it is a necessity.
What is a sick fetish?
When sexual intercourse is exclusively focused on one action at one time and in one place, it is called sick fetish. About 6 months ago, I heard from my judge friend that a 25- and 27-year-old couple filed for divorce after 6 months of marriage. The couple was fighting each other in every way and claimed to love each other. When I looked for the problem, I found out that this gentleman He could enjoy sex only in the bathroom, which means that whenever they needed, they had to go to Hamtam, whether it was night or day, any time and in bed, they were never satisfied and…
In general, I will briefly mention the common behaviors that cause more sexual pleasure for men below: using provocative words alone is not the answer, the way of expressing them should be in a calm and graceful tone, the type of clothing some women believe that If they take off all their coverings, men are more aroused, but usually, if parts of the body are visible, men’s sexual thirst increases.
Makeup and beauty Some women, when they are going out for shopping, class, party, etc., they spend maybe two hours putting on makeup and choosing the right clothes and perfume, while when it comes to their husbands, they forcefully put on makeup at home. This behavior is due to the habit of people and it is incorrect.
Making provocative movements and… all this was just to stimulate our husband, but in the sexual relationship, what we should keep in mind is that our opposite party is a machine to satisfy our sexual urges. Sex is a two-way relationship. Don’t forget about marital relations and sex. In this relationship, men will reach sexual satisfaction through physical actions, but let’s not forget about mental and emotional pleasures. Most men enjoy oral sex. However, doing this relationship is difficult for some women. Is .
Of course, some behaviors are formed due to the lack of sexual experience during sex, that is, you may avoid doing some actions, but during sex, when you see the state and behavior of your wife, you will be satisfied to do that work. Generally, men need their wives to be completely in love with them. Of course, it goes without saying that in fetish, some men want to be completely at the disposal of their wives. Talk about your sexual needs during engagement and before marriage, talking about sexual issues is a necessary factor for marriage and always keep in your mind that the only person who can answer your sexual needs in life is no one but you. your wife, so prepare her mind, don’t forget that your behavior should be reciprocal, so just as you expect your wife to do a certain act to please you, which is derived from your sexual thoughts, she should also do the same for the sexual and spiritual satisfaction of her husband. Try to fall in love with each other.
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