It is better for parents to inform teenagers about sex and be careful about their behavior and actions in front of them!
A psychologist stated that parents cannot ignore the right to sexual needs in their teenagers, and advised them to increase the ability to talk about the personal feelings of teenagers in family environments in order to prevent, fix and solve issues and problems caused by puberty. According to Salamat News, quoted by ISNA, Mehdi Bayati added: Currently, due to teenagers’ access to all kinds of information in the form of videos and photos on mobile phones and personal computers, we often see premature puberty in them. This is while we cannot prohibit teenagers from using modern technologies in the world of communication; We must accept this fact and not act to suppress it, because banning the use of these devices only makes the teenager more greedy.
He went on to say that, unfortunately, the sexual issues and curiosities of teenagers, which are part of the natural stages of their development, are always kept in the hidden spaces of the family, and added: Families must accept that sexual needs and curiosities exist in their teenagers like any other person. For this reason, they should have a respectful and non-accusatory view of the teenager in this regard.
This psychologist added: parents’ immorality with teenagers at this age, especially regarding their sexual issues and curiosities, has the opposite result and causes them to be pessimistic in adulthood, which is the beginning of many problems in the future life of teenagers.
Bayati also pointed to family excesses in this regard and stated: Sometimes we see that families deal with this issue very simply and easily watch some movies and pictures in family gatherings; On the other hand, there are also families who are strict or unduly modest in this regard and do not even allow a conversation with the teenager in connection with these issues, both of these behaviors are very harmful for the teenager and become a factor for the teenager’s deviance. .
He added: When parents put the lack of dialogue and silence in these issues on their agenda, the teenager chooses the wrong way to satisfy his curiosity.
Bayati further pointed out that families sometimes neglect their child’s growth and placement during adolescence and said: adolescence is a period that should not be neglected and families should always be aware of the hormonal and physiological changes of their adolescent.
He clarified: In this period, mothers and daughters of families with male teenagers are advised to avoid wearing semi-naked and tight clothes.
This psychologist also emphasized the unnecessary modesty of families regarding the sexual issues of teenagers and that in many cases, families think that if they talk to teenagers about this issue, their eyes and ears will be opened, so to speak, and stated: Parents’ speech is effective in guiding children; This is while now families are not even familiar with the literature of their teenagers, and due to not having experienced such issues during their teenage years, they do not have the power to manage the situation, and thus they always try to suppress or give unnecessary freedoms, both of which are harmful.
Bayati also said: At this age, it is better for fathers to talk with sons and mothers with daughters and provide them with some tips to take preventive measures.
In the end, he said: parents should know the literature of teenagers and increase their ability to talk so that they can prevent emerging injuries caused by the development of technology in their teenagers, because teenagers are like walking on a narrow wall and if they cannot Guided correctly in this era, at any moment a person may be thrown into a valley from which it will be very difficult to return.
September 3, 2014 11:51
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