Ways to reach orgasm in women can be learned and taught, and in this article we will mention some of these methods.
About 10% of women do not reach orgasm during sex (or even during masturbation). However, only a limited number of these people seek treatment for this problem.
In this article we will have good news for women: Reaching orgasm can be learned.
The first and most important step to having an orgasm is to increase the two factors of stress and relaxation in a balanced way during sexual intercourse. The question may arise for you or your spouse on how to apply these two seemingly contradictory factors simultaneously. This is a very good question that we will answer later.
The first step in achieving orgasm in women: High stress
The type of stress that helps women reach orgasm is muscle tension. Some women mistakenly think that because peace is important during sex, they should just lie down in peace and show no reaction. But what has been proven is that having muscle tension is often necessary to reach orgasm. It is better for women to learn that they need moderate and balanced amount of muscle tension in the legs, feet, abdomen and buttocks to reach orgasm.
Many women report that the muscles that are most stressed during orgasm are the lower pelvic floor muscles. In fact, these muscles are the ones that are used to control the flow of urine or to stop the flow of urine in the middle of urination (conscious contraction of these muscles is called Kegel exercise).
Another question: What is the connection between contracting these muscles and reaching orgasm? The answer to this question can be summed up in one word “stimulation”. Contraction of certain muscles increases blood flow throughout the body and often in the genital area. This increases the amount of stimulation. In fact, it can be said that “stimulation” acts as a roadmap and helps many women reach orgasm.
The second step in achieving orgasm in women: Calm down
But the second part of the question we asked in the first part of the article. In which part of this equation is calmness and relaxation located?
This peace must be present in the brain. During sex, a woman should be able to simply focus on feeling aroused.
Is it difficult for you to be relaxed?
Try to repeat a positive and provocative sentence in your mind and focus on sex. Phrases like “really good”, “I can be stimulated as long as I want.” Or “how fun” and the like can be good choices. Try to fill your whole brain with these sentences and focus on sex. Do not forget that having negative thoughts and being nervous can reduce your arousal.
After learning these two points, it is better to practice them. Squeeze your muscles during sex and keep your mind calm. This technique requires practice, but after a while you will get the desired answer. Often, many women who use this technique achieve good results.
Recognize and deal with sexual anxiety
Many people experience some form of sexual anxiety. On the other hand, letting another person into one of the most private parts of life seems to be a very close and revealing relationship.
The problem is that most people think that others always have satisfying sex without any problems, and this can increase anxiety.
What is meant by sexual anxiety?
Worrying about the following is called sexual anxiety.
Common in men and women:
Does my spouse think I’m not good in bed?
Could this sex lead to pregnancy?
Can I get a sexually transmitted disease?
Can I do this at all?
Does my spouse think my breasts are big, small or ugly?
Does my spouse think my penis is ugly?
Doesn’t he like my body odor?
Can having sex with him hurt me?
What if I can not be satisfied?
Is it possible for fluid to come out of me when I reach orgasm?
In fact, few of these concerns make sense. For example, if you are worried about having unprotected sex, it makes perfect sense. Feeling threatened by a sexually transmitted disease is normal and can even be helpful and make you more hygienic.
But many of the concerns expressed above are completely irrational, and in fact it should be said that such concerns themselves can make matters worse.
Can’t reach orgasm again? Your problem may be medical.
Some women may need treatment to reach orgasm.
On the other hand, treatments for some diseases and other problems or side effects of some medications may make it difficult for women to reach orgasm. See your doctor to find out why you have a problem.
Your doctor may use two solutions to treat this problem:
Special devices that have been approved by the US FDA and can increase blood flow to the genital area.
Over-the-counter creams that can increase sensitivity and help women reach orgasm. Of course, these creams are not approved by the American Standards Organization, so remember to consult a doctor before use.