Why do some men get cold feet and do not want to have sex with their partner? What factors play a role in their reluctance to have sex and prevent them from having sex?
Colds are a term used to describe the reduction or loss of libido. It is a misnomer and the exact term is “decreased libido”. An explanation is needed first, and that is that the terms should be used correctly and not confused. Decreased libido or cold temper is a sexual disorder. Sexual disorders in both men and women have a wide range and should not be confused with each other.
For example, there are about 20 types of sexual disorders in men, but the main sexual disorders in men are divided into three categories: erectile dysfunction, ejaculation disorder and sexual desire disorder. Major sexual disorders in women are divided into six categories: pain disorder, impaired libido, impaired orgasm, impaired genital moisture, impaired sexual arousal, and impaired sexual satisfaction. Therefore, by obtaining a correct history, it is necessary to determine what is the intention and purpose of the patient in using the term “cold”.
Colds or diminished sexual desire are scientifically defined, and a mere claim is not a reason for a person to be ill. Sexual desire is directly related to age. Sexual desire decreases with age in both sexes, the intensity of which varies from person to person.
The number of normal marital relationships in a couple is several times a week, there is no scientifically definite number for it. It depends on the needs of the parties. In the third decade of life, a couple may need to have sex three times a week or once every two weeks. There is usually a relative asymmetry in the sexual needs of men and women within the family, but the parties must strike a balance. Sometimes this asymmetry is too much and in practice it causes problems and sometimes it leads to separation.
Therefore, it is very important to know the needs of the parties in the premarital period. It is sometimes observed that the sexual need of one of the couples is to have intercourse every day and the other party, on the contrary, is forced to have sex once or more every two weeks. It is in these cases that family problems begin. This article tries to give a brief explanation about the causes of colds in men and women in simple language.
When a man is said to have a cold temper depends on different parameters and at different ages and situations. If a man has little sexual desire from the beginning of his sexual life (more than 10 days in the third decade), he is said to have a cold temper.
Colds are divided into two main categories; Primary and secondary. In the primary type, the man has had a cold from the beginning of sexual life, and in the secondary type, after a normal period has passed, the man experiences a decrease in sexual desire. In terms of the intensity of decreased libido or cold temper, it is divided into three main categories: mild, moderate and severe.
In the severe type, the man may not feel the need for sex for months, and this can cause serious problems in some families. On the other hand, decreased libido or cold temper is considered a disease when it causes stress and problems in the family. There is no disease in a couple that both parties do not have a problem with once every six months and are compatible with. In terms of the causes of decreased sexual desire or coldness in men, it is divided into two major categories: mental-psychological and physical.
In medical science, attributing the problems of the disease to psychological problems is the last diagnosis, for example, a patient who presents with a headache should not be immediately told that it is caused by psychological problems, it may have been the cause of the head tumor behind the brain tumor. Sexual desire in both men and women is directly related to the psychological issues around him, the most important of which are as follows:
• How to have an emotional relationship with your spouse
• Mental preoccupation
• Work too much
Depression or anxiety
Unemployment, financial problems, having a patient in the family and many other issues can overshadow a man’s sexual desire, it should not be forgotten that the presence of one or more of the above can not be the cause of decreased sexual desire or cold. The patient may have a physical problem in the background.
The king is a sign of a decrease in male hormones, a decrease in sexual desire. If a man has gradually developed a decrease in sexual desire, for example in the last six months, he should be checked for the level of male hormones. Sometimes other psychological issues in life aggravate a pre-existing physical problem and should be considered.
Diagnosis of male hormone deficiency requires specialized tests, and contrary to popular belief and some colleagues, it is not blood testosterone that characterizes normal male hormone levels in men. Decreased libido in men is more pronounced than in women, because in a marital relationship, the man acts as an actor. The man usually if he has decreased libido, natural erection does not occur in him, and therefore it is impossible to establish a normal marital relationship. Becomes. Conversely, a woman with a mild to moderate cold may be forced into a marital relationship that will ultimately be successful for her husband, even though he or she may be under a lot of psychological and physical pressure.
Another important cause of decreased libido or coldness in men and women is the use of psychotropic drugs. It should be noted that such drugs should not be discontinued or replaced on their own, the patient can discuss the problem with the treating physician and The treating physician decides how to continue treatment.
* Surgeon and specialist in kidney and urinary tract diseases
World Health Monthly – Dr. Mohammad Reza Safarinejad *: