Why is the first sex annoying for a woman? Having sex for the first time is often associated with a lot of anxiety. The truth is that there is little experience of pain during sex for the first time, but this is not always the case. In addition, depending on the cause of the pain, there are ways to help alleviate it. How to have the least pain in losing the hymen? In this article from Dr. Salam’s gynecology and sex department, we examine the pain of losing the hymen.
Why is it annoying the first time you have sex?
When a woman first experiences pain during sex, it can be due to several factors. If your hymen is still healthy, you may experience pain and some bleeding during sex. The hymen is a thin tissue that may partially or completely cover the entrance to the vagina. It has an opening that comes in different sizes and can be thick or thin. The more elastic the hymen, the less pain the first intercourse.
If the hymen is not elastic enough, there may be some damage and some bleeding during the first sexual intercourse. This is the most common source of sexual pain for women. Women sometimes worry that their partner’s penis may be too big and that is why they are in pain. Although it is possible, it is very rare. The average size of a man’s penis is about 5 to 7 inches long and the vagina is between three and seven inches long. The vagina can be long and wide during sex and childbirth, so a very large penis is usually not the cause of the pain.
Another cause of pain or discomfort is when the penis is deep in the vagina and makes contact with the cervix. This may feel more uncomfortable than pain, but it is usually easily resolved by trying a different sexual position.
Other common causes that women experience during or after sex include infection (for example, a sexually transmitted infection), vaginismus, an allergic reaction to condoms or lubricants, and menopause.
How to lose your hymen without pain
We can not guarantee a 100% pain-free sexual experience, but we can recommend ways to help minimize the chance of experiencing pain. Having a partner who wants to reduce pain, be patient and encouraging, and engage in sexual arousal is a good way to ensure your first sexual experience. There are sex tips in many articles and we have put together six of the best to help make your first sex memorable.
1. Check sex with your partner
Do not be afraid to be vulnerable, express your concerns and be honest and be honest with your partner. After all, your body will be sharing with them, so you have the right to explain how it feels to you. Do not be afraid to talk. Calmly and honestly let your partner know exactly how you feel. Talking about fear with your partner can help reduce stress.
Make sure you are ready enough and your partner starts having sex and helps you increase your chances for a great experience. There are many things that can help you relax, feel more comfortable and experience less sexual pain.
To prepare before intercourse should increase the lubrication in the vagina and reduce the likelihood of friction-related pain. You can take a steam shower with your partner, exchange sexy text messages, or talk softly in each other’s ears. Kissing, touching, oral sex or hand stimulation are also great.
Learn more: Misconceptions about girls’ virginity
Although sex has many benefits, stimulation can increase the experience and level of pleasure for both of you. Every woman is different, so get to know your body this way to understand what makes you aroused.
3. Try different situations
If you have painful sex, different sexual positions may help relieve the pain. Here are some options to try:
1- Classic amount: Men may initially prefer to be on top so that they can control their movements. Instead of spreading your legs, let your partner give you an idea so you can understand the reaction. Face-to-face contact helps to increase the intimate relationship between you and your partner.
2- High pillow: Place a pillow under your pelvis. Bend your knees, lift your hips in the air and spread your legs wide. If you are experiencing severe pain, this position should help control the pain.
3- Rely on me: Lean on a surface such as a wall or table and face your partner. Wrap your hips around your hips and wrap your legs around you. This position allows you to rub your clitoris on your partner for ultimate pleasure.
4. Tap me: In this case, you can either put your face in front of him or turn your back on each other (like spooning). In any case, it allows you to control the depth and speed.
4. Set realistic expectations
Many women believe that their first sexual intercourse should be special and memorable. This is a magical moment that you have to remember for a long time, so it is natural to have high expectations. Some women have a mental checklist even before they decide to be ready and know where and when it will happen. These are all logical things to do, but it is just as important to have realistic expectations.
Be fair to yourself and your partner and try not to imagine an unreal fantasy as it is only found in movies. If you find that you are still worried about sex, see your counselor or psychiatrist to find out what the underlying issue is.
5. No need to rush: Slow down
It is important that you be patient with your partner and say how you feel about any thoughts that come to mind. You may have expectations of yourself, your partner and how these steps should be done, but wait a minute to calm down. Let there be plenty of time for this. Tell your partner where and when he should touch you. Go slow, and when you’re both ready, use your fingers to stimulate yourself as needed. Find a song that works for both of you. No need to hurry.
6. Location: Make sure you feel comfortable
Choosing the right place to have sex for the first time is a good first step in the planning process. It should be a place where both of you can feel comfortable and at ease and be alone for at least a few hours. This should be hassle-free, so outside or inside the car is probably not ideal.
The bed is still a great place to make love. It is also good to have access to basic amenities, where you can control the temperature, have enough space for yourself, and use the bathroom. Feel free to add personal hobbies such as rose petals, music, and lighting to adjust your lovemaking mood.
Does pain happen once in sex?
Sex becomes less painful after the first time, because the hymen disappears and your body gets used to it. You can also use your fingers to pull the hymen tissue if this is your source of pain. If you find that sex is very painful after a little effort, and you are still bleeding, call your doctor to find the cause and treat it accordingly. Depending on your symptoms, here are some things that may be recommended:
- If you have unusual discharge, unusual pain and itching, you may be treated for thrush or infection.
- If you experience dryness, a water-based lubricant may be recommended.
- If you notice a reaction when using products or substances that come in contact with your vagina, you probably have allergies and you should avoid using them.
- If you think there is an emotional aspect to pain, talk to a counselor or psychologist and consider these issues.