Why It’s Okay To Ask For Help When You Feel You Aren’t Enough
The fact that people today have a ton of problems on their plates and more things they have to think about every single day than they can imagine does not surprise anyone anymore. That is just the way it is and the modern way of life dictates a harsh tempo that produces stress and personal issues.
However, while having problems is nothing special, knowing how to handle them is. Keeping everything bottled up inside you is not a viable and long-term option, especially if you wish to keep your sanity. That is why having someone to talk to is quite important, particularly in situations when you feel you cannot manage everything on your own.
Here is a quick guide to knowing who you should consult and in what situations.
Consulting Friends and Family
Talking to your friends or members of your family is the closest thing to talking to yourself. As you have known them for years and are comfortable around them, confining your troubles in them might be the best solution you can think of. Moreover, some of the biggest issues you have can be reduced to nothing by a simple conversation with a person who knows you so well. Even the biggest troubles linked to depression or suicidal thoughts are manageable with a little help from your friends.
However, not even the best of friends and the closest of kin can make some of your problems go away. Furthermore, you cannot always count of these people wanting to help you – keep in mind that even the gangs from How I Met Your Mother and Sex and the City sometimes wish that Ted Mosby and Carrie Bradshaw would just stop complaining about their lives and turned to someone else instead. But who else?
Consulting Gym Trainers
This is the next step of establishing a fine line between friends and confidants – a gym trainer is someone you see several times a week and spend a considerable amount of time with. Therefore, they are someone you can trust and whose opinion you can value. Of course, this relationship is based around a specific set of topics and most of the things you talk about will be gym-based – most adequate exercises, professional tips, dietary advice, etc. – at least in the beginning.
Nevertheless, remember that gym trainers are not experts in advising people nor are they trained to give you all the answers you are looking for. Hence, do not expect them to work miracles and solve every single problem you have. Alas, even if they wish you stopped doing it, talking to them will surely help. And it will give you a few minutes to cool off during an intense training session, which is always good!
Consulting Life Coaches and Psychologists
When talking about people who are experts in talking to you and solving your problems, life coaches cannot be topped. With their huge experience and a whole variety of topics they specialize in, there is very little they know nothing about. Furthermore, skilled life coaches will know how to guide you to talking about certain things and pose the right coaching questions that will help you reach the answers you were looking for.
As far as psychologists are concerned, they function on an entirely new level. They are usually very knowledgeable, professional and highly trained to spot your reactions, read your emotions and reveal your deepest feelings – even the ones you yourself did not know you had. That is why talking to a psychologist might be the most beneficial type of talk and one that is sure to solve most of your issues.
Finally – Consulting Yourself
Talking to someone you have known for ages is great because you can create a calming atmosphere, while turning to a stranger has other benefits – there are no restrictions and you can say anything you want. However, in the end, maybe you just do not feel like talking to all these different people, or are not sure how, no matter how close you are. That is why digging deep into your own soul and finding the answers on your own might be quite helpful, too. You will feel better, solve your problems and, what is also important, grow as a person.
